Don’t let social media take over your wedding
So you’re getting married and you are planning your big day. You might have already found the dress, caterers, venue, flowers etc but, in this social media frenzied world in which 24million people log in to Facebook each day, have you given any thought to make sure it doesn’t take over your day?
Before the wedding…
Who doesn’t get at least a little bit excited about a wedding? This is especially true of those involved in the bridal party and with every happy couple wanting to put their own unique stamp on proceedings, just make sure you don’t give away too much beforehand. If you are prone to status update overload, just make a conscious effort to keep as much as possible a surprise for the day – after all the expression you really want to see on all your guests faces is “wow!” and not “oh yeah, I remember seeing that a couple of months ago”. Of course we understand that you’ll want to create excitement and drop hints of the upcoming events, so why not try one of these simple tips:
– do it with words, NOT a photo!
– if you are a social paparazzi, why not post just a couple of close-up, slightly abstract teaser photos? That way you can create some buzz and intrigue.
On the big day…
Of the aforementioned 24million UK Facebook users, 83% access it daily on a mobile device and globally over 300 million photos are uploaded daily (Source: Gizmodo). Why is that important? Well it means that, statistically, nearly 1/3 of your guests will be armed with a smartphone and ready to take and upload photos and videos! There are two things we think you should consider here:
1. These stats would suggest that at least one of your bridal party will be itching to upload a photo of you even during the bridal preparations – you wouldn’t want wedding dress spoilers going out before your big entrance, would you?
2. Wouldn’t you rather see your guests’ smiles (and tears of joy!) instead of seeing their furrowed brow poking over their phone as they struggle to focus their camera app on you and grab a shot that is not too blurry as you waltz down the aisle.
Who chooses which photos get shared?!
As we mentioned in a recent post, 1 in 10 couples are not happy with their wedding photos. Let’s face it, even with a great photographer there are likely to be photos that you don’t like, so would you really want to leave the first wedding photos to go public up to chance?
Good news – we’ve got three more tips to help avoid all of this:
1. Mark sure you get digital copies of the official photographs with permission to share them online in your contract with the official photographer.
2. Be up front and (politely) clear with your guests – tell them that you are really looking forward to seeing them at your wedding and would love the day to be enjoyed in real time and through their own eyes, not later on social media. Also, if you’ve done tip 1 then, let them know that the official digital photos will be shared online.
3. Banning other photographers is probably taking things too far (unless you are Kim Kardashian), in fact it is quite common for that guests capture some of the best candid photos from the day. So why not consider one of the many great wedding photography app and online services out there? These allow all your guests to share and comment on photos, but you get to decide which ones get shared beyond that on social media. Sound good? Try wedpics.com and weddingpartyapp.com for starters, but there are lots of others out available so make sure you find the right one for you.
What about the bride and groom?
For a brief time it looked like we might have had to change the official marriage ceremony script to…
“You may kiss the bride and then post your first ever married selfie, tag yourself and update your Facebook relationship status!”
Of course all of this is absolutely fine to do providing they are done in the right way – remember that everyone is there to see you tie the knot and not to marvel at your touchscreen typing prowess! Also, bear in mind that your guests will take a likely take a lead from you and the bridal party.
What do you think? Are we spending too much time seeing life through our viewfinders and screens? Would you rather see your guests smiles or iPhones?